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Dangling by Gayathri Thiyyadimadom


Gayathri Thiyyadimadom’s “Dangling” represents a personal tragedy—the death of a man by suicide—that becomes a locus of communal gathering and reflection. The neighbors crowd into the house to view the dead man’s body and try without success to comfort his family. We see the room through their eyes: the unwieldy furnishings that seem like traces of an earlier, more prosperous life; the photos of the now-shattered family. And the dead man lying on the floor, his jaw wrapped tight against the words he could not and now will never say.

The craft of this piece lies in its use of language to embody the unspeakable. The cadence constantly pulls us down and then bounces us back up, echoed by the diction and descriptions. Just when we are at our lowest, “sprawled on the floor” with the dead man’s body, the voice of the little girl “sings out.” The juxtaposition of her cheerful tone (and very young age) with her shocking words represents the true horror of what has occurred in a way that also leaves us “dangling.” —CRAFT


 

The day felt sticky, the low, black sky weighed down with the scent of monsoons. With puddles beneath their feet and shut umbrellas in hands, they shuffled into the building in their damp dhotis and saris, an elevator heaving them up in discomfiting silence.

A muffled wail lured them through an open door, urging them to heap their footwear and look up. A photograph, a portal to the past. A family of three with crow’s feet of laughter, the dunes rolling behind like a golden carpet. Another photograph hung beside the TV. A couple in a side hug, his streaks of grey peeking at the kohl in her eyes.

A china cabinet stood beside an ornate divan, uncomfortably out of place, plucked out from a larger, grander home. People sat wherever they could, waiting for more to arrive. A woman crouched beside the mother, an arm over her shoulders, silently patting her back.

Others stood around the father who was sprawled on the floor next to a brass censer that filled the room with sandalwood smoke. Lines of sacred ash marked his forehead. Cotton wool plugged his nostrils, saving him from the smell of a stale sambhar wafting in from the kitchen in memory of the last supper, from the stink of urine escaping the shut bedroom. And the bandage around his head brought his jaws together, as if to keep his words shut in forever.

A little girl, hardly five, sang out, “I found him dangling from the ceiling fan.”

 


GAYATHRI THIYYADIMADOM is a writer from India, currently living in Germany. She holds a day job in tech and writes personal essays on Medium, exploring life’s existential questions. 

Featured image by Ipek Dukel, courtesy of Unsplash.

 

Author’s Note

I must have been eighteen when the stranger in my neighbourhood took his life, the doctor who had moved in less than three months earlier. We lived in a village where everyone knew each other, going back at least two generations. But the stranger’s only label was the new doctor.

  That was so until the day he took his life. In the absence of any other information, he was reduced in his roles and defined by his final act. The new doctor, a husband and a father, who committed suicide.

  I knew no one who committed suicide until then. It was to me just the final recourse of forlorn lovers in the ultra-romantic Indian movies I watched. But in real life—one I hadn’t yet lived, and one I viewed through a black-and-white lens—I viewed suicide as cowardice and a shirking of one’s responsibilities in the face of life’s challenges.

  So his suicide outraged me. How could someone abandon his wife and kid, no matter what his troubles were? What was the point of education if it couldn’t inspire fortitude? Why did he marry if he had suicidal tendencies? Wasn’t it a criminal offense (which it was in India’s colonial era penal code that viewed suicide as a crime against the state and religion)? In my rhetorical arguments with the dead man, his death was an affront to others, a renouncement of his role as a protector and provider.

  I knew nothing else about him, not how he died, where he came from, what drove him to the drastic act, or what became of his family later. But looking back through the ensuing two decades, what I find entirely lacking in my impressions of those days is an empathy and understanding of the human condition. I had a rigid view of a society in which everyone had an inescapable and often strictly gendered role. When someone refused to play along, I was quick to judge.

  A few years later, my schoolfriend lost his father to mounting debts and the rail tracks. Another friend lost his to marital troubles and immolation. A few years later, a classmate from college, someone who was intelligent, kind, sensitive, and erudite, lost their life to suicide after battling loneliness and depression.

Each of them seemed to challenge my black-and-white prism and confront life in all its varied hues. They were all men. Barring my friend, they were all fathers. But slowly, I was seeing them beyond their fatherhood or gender. I was beginning to understand the loneliness of men and the social expectations placed on them. They made me reckon with the unseen troubles of the mind.

So this story is my atonement against social certitudes. It’s an attempt to see such a situation without judgment. A man is lying dead, leaving behind the traces of his fully lived life.

 


GAYATHRI THIYYADIMADOM is a writer from India, currently living in Germany. She holds a day job in tech and writes personal essays on Medium, exploring life’s existential questions.